Dating should be a wonderful experience mixed with fun and serious chats during the first few dates. Those chats will help you and your love interest to get to know each other and best determine if the two of you are an ideal match. Getting to know someone can be fun if you approach the process in a sincere way. When you ask the right questions, you will get the results that you seek either through your date’s answers or through your date’s body language. Here are fun things to discuss during first dates:
What Would Be Your Dream Job?
This is a super question to ask on a first date. You might not think at first that your future partner’s job will have such an impact on your life, but it will. If you are planning on building a life with someone it is important to know how their career affects your ethics. For instance, if you are dating someone who works as a veterinarian, and you are allergic to most animals, then it would be strenuous on your health for you to be physically close to someone who is exposed to animal fur all day. Or, if you are a staunch advocate for living a smoke-free life and the person who you’re dating works for a tobacco company, your ethics might lead arguments. Finding out whether or not you can live with your significant other’s career ambitions is one of the first things you should aim to discover.
What Hobbies Would You Attempt?
Finding out about your date’s hobbies will provide the much-needed clues that you need to determine compatibility. Could you listen with rapt devotion as your significant others drones on and on about her stamp collection? Are you excited at the prospect of cheering on your date at his softball games, or does the thought of going to any sports game at all bore you to tears? If you will have a hard time accepting your date’s hobbies and interests, you will probably have more difficulty getting along and finding common ground.
What is Your Ideal Vacation?
I feel that the couple that vacations together stays together. My ideal vacation is someplace where the sun shines brightly, a beautiful body of water (preferably an ocean) is within walking distance from where I am staying, and plenty of tourist attractions are available to explore. I know that I could never be happy dating someone who disliked beach vacations! You will gain plenty of clues about your love interest’s personality when they reveal their ideal vacation. If camping outdoors and fishing is their thing, then perhaps he or she prefers vacationing locally.
Who Are Your Top Five People?
Yes, it’s true…you really do become an average of the five people who you spend the majority of your time with. Ask your date who influences their lives the most! Our experiences dealing with other people shape our perspectives. It is important to know what your potential mate’s temperament is like, what he or she considers to be important, and who their inner circle is and how those people have impacted how your potential partner makes decisions. Learning more about the most important people in the life of the person who you want to connect deeper with will help you to know what kind of life you may have together.
How Do You Like to Relax?
Leisure time is just as important as time spent working. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you and your significant other were in total agreement with how to spend your leisure time? For some people, working is their favourite way to relax. For other people, working is the last thing that they want to do when they wish to unwind. Some people like to spend their leisure time solo, and other people like to spend their leisure time with their loved ones. Keep in mind too that most couples spend their time together when they are NOT working, unless, of course, the couples work together. Many couples do not work together and plan their time together outside of working hours. Knowing how your potential mate handles leisure time will help you to know how compatible the two of you are.
What Are Your Proudest Moments?
Asking what is near and dear to the heart of your love interest is a great way to learn more about his or her life. Whether it is an academic award, a kind gesture made to another person, or a courageous act, your love interest’s proudest moment will shed a lot of light on what makes him or her tick.
There you have it! Six great conversation starters to open up the lines of communication during your first few dates together. Be sure to smile and listen closely as you use these conversation starters to get to know someone who could have a huge impact on your life if the two of you prove to be a compatible match.
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